Comments on: Custody is an Ugly Word for Respite http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/ Red is Good. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 20:17:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Allyson http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-791 Allyson Mon, 18 Dec 2006 17:22:29 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-791 You my dear are amazing! I hold single mother's on the highest possible pedistal, because I just don't know how they do it; especially with twins! You are amazing! I am sure your husband thinks so too! ;) You my dear are amazing! I hold single mother’s on the highest possible pedistal, because I just don’t know how they do it; especially with twins! You are amazing! I am sure your husband thinks so too! ;)

]]> By: L.A. Daddy http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-784 L.A. Daddy Thu, 23 Nov 2006 18:02:28 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-784 Excellent idea. I'm glad you're getting your rest. Our plan is to have travel weekends when L.A. Toddler gets older. One of us will take off for the weekend with the kid and let the other one do what they want, on our own. And it will be a great way for us to bond. I plan to take her to Catalina Island, maybe San Diego, and let L.A. Toddler experience the area. And let L.A. Mommy get some rest... Excellent idea. I’m glad you’re getting your rest. Our plan is to have travel weekends when L.A. Toddler gets older. One of us will take off for the weekend with the kid and let the other one do what they want, on our own. And it will be a great way for us to bond. I plan to take her to Catalina Island, maybe San Diego, and let L.A. Toddler experience the area. And let L.A. Mommy get some rest…

]]> By: Her Bad Mother http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-785 Her Bad Mother Wed, 22 Nov 2006 11:49:39 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-785 Respite is absolutely, absolutely key. And alone time for couples. AND 'alone time' for children with each parent. Total family togetherness is over-rated. Respite is absolutely, absolutely key. And alone time for couples. AND ‘alone time’ for children with each parent.

Total family togetherness is over-rated.

]]> By: AdventureDad http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-786 AdventureDad Wed, 22 Nov 2006 06:05:29 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-786 You must have been copying from my site because I talk about this subject a lot:-)) I consider it very important to let both mother and father have some time away from the kids to recharge and think about life. The time alone doesn't have to be long or consist of anything advanced. Get drunk, sleep, work out, blogging, knitting, reading, or sitting on the balcony tanning. It doesn't matter. But I see this as a crucial mistake most couple make when they have kids. Kids are fantastic bu there is no need to stop living. And I think we all become better parents by getting a break quite often(unless you don't spend any time with the kids, then a break isn't really needed). In the short term it won't be noticed, but wait a year or two and it will be very clear what parents are getting a break. Sounds like your daughters will be much better off because of what you will teach them about your own personal experiences. Interesting read. AD You must have been copying from my site because I talk about this subject a lot:-)) I consider it very important to let both mother and father have some time away from the kids to recharge and think about life. The time alone doesn’t have to be long or consist of anything advanced. Get drunk, sleep, work out, blogging, knitting, reading, or sitting on the balcony tanning. It doesn’t matter. But I see this as a crucial mistake most couple make when they have kids. Kids are fantastic bu there is no need to stop living. And I think we all become better parents by getting a break quite often(unless you don’t spend any time with the kids, then a break isn’t really needed). In the short term it won’t be noticed, but wait a year or two and it will be very clear what parents are getting a break.

Sounds like your daughters will be much better off because of what you will teach them about your own personal experiences. Interesting read.

AD

]]> By: Irene http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-783 Irene Wed, 22 Nov 2006 05:08:06 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-783 this post is brimming with love for your children. it is so inspiring. and I still don't know how you did it alone with your twins. you're a great mom. and you're right, every parent needs a break once in a while to recharge. this post is brimming with love for your children. it is so inspiring. and I still don’t know how you did it alone with your twins. you’re a great mom. and you’re right, every parent needs a break once in a while to recharge.

]]> By: jen http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-781 jen Tue, 21 Nov 2006 19:14:45 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-781 I am filing for divorce RIGHT NOW... Yep... Here I GOOOOOO... Just kidding. Although I agree that recharging is NECESSARY...yet we women really don't get much time for it. The men need to tune in more...read our minds...and give it to us! And I don't just mean sex. ;) Seriously though...you should be proud that you are doing this all with dignity. It's a tough thing and I saw many many MANY of my friends used as weapons between their parents and it sucked... I am filing for divorce RIGHT NOW…
Yep…
Here I GOOOOOO…
Just kidding.
Although I agree that recharging is NECESSARY…yet we women really don’t get much time for it. The men need to tune in more…read our minds…and give it to us! And I don’t just mean sex. ;) Seriously though…you should be proud that you are doing this all with dignity. It’s a tough thing and I saw many many MANY of my friends used as weapons between their parents and it sucked…

]]> By: gunfighter http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-782 gunfighter Tue, 21 Nov 2006 11:52:53 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-782 I'm with moobs... I know from whence she speaks, sadly. The funny thing is, I tell my wife all the time... "go away for a weekend... stay in town for the weekend at a hotel near the house... get away for a while, relax..." She won't do it. I’m with moobs… I know from whence she speaks, sadly.

The funny thing is, I tell my wife all the time… “go away for a weekend… stay in town for the weekend at a hotel near the house… get away for a while, relax…” She won’t do it.

]]> By: gunfighter http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-778 gunfighter Tue, 21 Nov 2006 11:47:04 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-778 I'm with moobs... I know from whence she speaks, sadly. The funny thing is, I tell my wife all the time... "go away for a weekend... stay in town for the weekend at a hotel near the house... get away for a while, relax..." She won't do it. I’m with moobs… I know from whence she speaks, sadly.

The funny thing is, I tell my wife all the time… “go away for a weekend… stay in town for the weekend at a hotel near the house… get away for a while, relax…” She won’t do it.

]]> By: bubandpie http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-779 bubandpie Tue, 21 Nov 2006 01:33:14 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-779 I've read before that in cases where the father is quite uninvolved, the children actually see MORE of him after the parents split up: it's too easy for some men to assume that mommy's taking care of all the child-rearing - at least this way there are times when he knows that it's his turn. I’ve read before that in cases where the father is quite uninvolved, the children actually see MORE of him after the parents split up: it’s too easy for some men to assume that mommy’s taking care of all the child-rearing - at least this way there are times when he knows that it’s his turn.

]]> By: loralee http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-780 loralee Mon, 20 Nov 2006 22:43:40 +0000 http://redsy.com/2006/11/19/custody-is-an-ugly-word-for-respite/#comment-780 Oh, I felt the exact same way with my first son when they both were younger. However, there is something I didn't take into consideration. Now that they are 7 and 10, when James is away Christopher is insufferably BORED and it requires a lot more time and energy to keep him entertained. Those early days were LOVELY, though Oh, I felt the exact same way with my first son when they both were younger.

However, there is something I didn’t take into consideration. Now that they are 7 and 10, when James is away Christopher is insufferably BORED and it requires a lot more time and energy to keep him entertained.

Those early days were LOVELY, though

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