Archive for July, 2007

30
Jul

this time we didn’t even talk about oral sex

Well, not that I remember.

Homeward now and further reflections on the power of BlogHer. Not the sessions, or the classes, but the force and passion of women in a room together chatting about the world.

But it wasn’t without it’s moments — this gathering. The conversation/debate about whether the “momosphere” is cliquey — the hurt feelings the somewhat heated discussions — did raise some crucial issues. There is clearly a hierarchy to the mommy blogosphere — a slumber-party funniness replete with talent and longevity (most of these sweeties have been blogging for around 2 years — which is like 15 in blog years) that is totally deserved, but honestly can be somewhat intimidating.

But to get caught up in that is missing the whole point. Truthfully, I like to believe there is enough room for plenty more writers ….an endless supply of room, and air, and so many important stories we all, YOU, need to share.

Attending BlogHer made me so grateful, to the women writers I read, who help me every day, grapple with the loud small people, laugh at the total oddness of the human condition. This laughter and storytelling is creating paradigmatic shift in politics, activism, self-expression… of this I’m convinced.

Even poor conference attendees like me (giggling away in the back with these two) could feel the simmering revolution.

What revolution?

Something like this.

Oh. And, I’m starting a Lisa Stone Fanclub (she’s one of the founders of BlogHer and is gorgeous and smart and I want to be her in my next life, rather than the beetle they have me scheduled to become, those karma rats).

28
Jul

And We Blogged All Night Long

The women! The cocktails! The laughing! I’m in love with 800 new people and that’s tricky for a gypsy girl like me, which is why it was bittersweet to leave BlogHer early to meet up with a lovely grad school pal.

Did you know that Charlene is a hot little number with a potty mouth (sigh), and that Kelly is totally cut and funny as hell, and Jessica is pretty and funny and oh so droll (we received many evil glances for giggling our way through some of the conference sessions) and Sarah goddess mother of twins with the best swag ever. And don’t believe a word she says, she’s absolutely stunning (and funny with a cute little baby boy strapped to her body). And many others… phew!

Still, not even enough time to lay eyes (or hands) on little Tanis, or Plain Jane Mom, and hardly hardly got to love up on Stefania.

This has been 8 trips stuffed into one and I’m exhausted and happy and only a teensy bit homesick. Sigh. So many women. Not enough time.

26
Jul

blogher bound

Flying to Chicago to meet the nice ladies who I will love and hug and squeeze.  Kisses to my sweet babies and my sweet husband. Thank you for letting me fly away from home for awhile.

25
Jul

No Good (Leaving on a Trip) Mama Goes Unpunished

In preparation for my upcoming sojourn, I’m currying favor with members of my household by having slumber parties with each of the twins (sharp! elbows! talking! 2am!!) and making casseroles for the freezer so they won’t starve while I’m gone.

Kidding. Really just making sure the supply of peanut butter and jelly and cereal won’t run out.

Also wrapping up a huge project at work so I can start another project upon my return and woke up at 5am this morning to prepare for a 9am meeting.

This vacation is killing me and I haven’t even left yet. When I get to my fancy room, I”ll probably take one look at my two roomies (one spiritual-ly, one nekkid fitness-y) and the pretty clean quiet room, and fall into a drooling stupor.

23
Jul

Writing Grrls Rule

Leaving in four days for another girls-girls-girls vacation. Some of the lovely people I cannot wait to meet include her, her, her, and since I’ll be rooming with her and she promised to show me her own naked self, I think there’s no denying this will be a fabulous trip (despite the fact that she isn’t coming).

Various employers will be hosting evening events that will require dresses and heels. Old and new friends will be chatted, clasped, and grasped.

Meanwhile, those of you not attending need not feel left out. You can attend virtually. Or, lord knows, you can certainly read about it just about anywhere.

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And this, THIS, is my new favorite read.

I love you so much, BlogRhet, that I dedicate my soon-t0-be-arriving fabulous red shoes to your soul.

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22
Jul

Channeling a Teenage Boy

“Mommy those are cute boobs.”

-Bubbles, Age 2 1/2

21
Jul

Fun Games.

Mocha Momma has a fun game for the laydays as we prepare for BlogHer. It goes like this: You have 10 seconds to share some things about yourself. Even if you’re not going to Blogher (or if you’re not a layday), please join in the fun.

Here’s mine:

1. I have a Masters in Public Policy from University of Chicago (and the loan payment to prove it)

2. I’m a Cancer Girl (July, that is)

3. I received a music scholarship to help pay for college

4. I am the middle sibling sandwiched between two wonderful boys/men

5. I grew up Mormon

Now you. What you got?

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Learn more about the other nice ladies here, here, or here, (or push the pretty button here).

19
Jul

and clearly she married well

Marriage is not my strong suit. Friendship, motherhood, dancing around, working hard, reading voraciously, finding joy in small things? These are some of the things at which I excel. Marriage? Not so much.

I read entries like this, or this, or even this, and there is a part of me that truly feels like I’m standing outside a restaurant window watching a couple sharing a candlelit dinner. I’m outside in the incomprehensible alien universe. They are on the inside. And they just understand.

I can see us, B and I, faltering under the weight of all of our responsibilities. I can watch us trying to catch up with the lost dove of romance. I can see him waiting for me to adore and cherish. And yet I fail. I watch myself fail.

And I wonder why I can’t love him the way he deserves? I cannot even begin to understand how others make these things work.  Or, put another way, I’m a student in the slow class of love.

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18
Jul

Wind Sprint

After several days of loving up on my girls, we descended straight into Hell. Isn’t that the crux of the challenge of parenting? Just when you think you’ve reached some new state of loving adoration and peace, they learn an evil new trick.

For the past three nights running, all three girls have gotten up 8,000 times after bed for reasons ranging from “I need ice in my water cup” to “I love you bigger than the world” (which, if not told to you at 11pm is a very adorable thing to hear).

I’m a member of the Church of the Early Bedtime. I’m a worshiper of the Goddess of Sleep Ritual and an acolyte in the Parents Free Time is Essential to Mental Health spiritual practice. Kids getting good sleep is my thing. My main trick (aside from acting goofy so they laugh off a tantrum).

The past few nights we all devolved into an exhausted cranky, crying, yelling family from Hell. And I was Queen.

So tonight? Wind sprints and milk with a dash of Benadryl. I kept the girls up one hour later then usual and made them run between the two fences while I counted loudly and cheered.

And peace is restored. For now.

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Us? Trouble?

15
Jul

and then i saw her lean on his shoulder

I walked into a party last night and after observing the mean age (70++), I immediately went downstairs and added more clothing (put away a portion of my decolletage).  After all, this was a church function/fundraiser.

Talky, sensing an “I Can Be a Star Tonight!!” situation, immediately pressed her advantage and bent ears tall and short about any old little thing (Did you know that announcing your age is a perfectly great opening line?). And even Tempest (usually pretty shy) sat quietly next to an older gentleman and inquired about his dinner.

It’s a wonderful thing to observe your own children, especially when they’re not having a tantrum at a park or barking orders to adults nearby (”I said SWING ME!!”). But prettily sitting on a low patio wall with the sun setting in the background in little skirts and talking and being civilized? It was a site!

At the end of the debut, I walked out to the patio and beheld Talky leaning peacefully on the shoulder of a grandfatherly sort. They were both perfectly content.

And I stood there and watched them. The lovely pair of new friends.

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And did I mention??

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